we're just a family of finches making our way in the town w/o a frown.

Friday, January 30, 2009

goodbye norma jean

saw this on vanilla frog had to try it. funny it is actually pretty dead on.

Your result for Are You a Jackie or a Marilyn? Or Someone Else? Mad Men-era Female Icon Quiz...

You Are a Marilyn!


You are a Marilyn -- "I am affectionate and skeptical."

Marilyns are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.

How to Get Along with Me

  • * Be direct and clear

  • * Listen to me carefully

  • * Don't judge me for my anxiety

  • * Work things through with me

  • * Reassure me that everything is OK between us

  • * Laugh and make jokes with me

  • * Gently push me toward new experiences

  • * Try not to overreact to my overreacting.

What I Like About Being a Marilyn

  • * being committed and faithful to family and friends

  • * being responsible and hardworking

  • * being compassionate toward others

  • * having intellect and wit

  • * being a nonconformist

  • * confronting danger bravely

  • * being direct and assertive

What's Hard About Being a Marilyn

  • * the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind

  • * procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself

  • * fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of

  • * exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger

  • * wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right

  • * being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations

Marilyns as Children Often

  • * are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn

  • * are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger

  • * form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent

  • * look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel

  • * are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent

Marilyns as Parents

  • * are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty

  • * are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence

  • * worry more than most that their children will get hurt

  • * sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries

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Thursday, January 29, 2009

oh yes, i'm the great pretender

I've been doing a lot of internal debate the last few weeks about what makes a "good" christian. i don't pretend to be perfect cause let's face it the only perfect person got nailed to a cross and had a horrible painful death, no thanks. i do try my best to live by the standards that He set forth, but hey i am human. i will stumble. i will fall. does that make me any less of a christian? does being human suddenly make you incapable of being a christian? i ask these things because my Christianity was recently brought into question, and i have to admit it pissed me off pretty bad. i have tried to keep a very positive and christian air to my blog. i don't actively preach my beliefs on here, but I've tried very hard to keep this a happy place. that is one reason it sometimes takes me a while to blog. i don't want to air dirty laundry over the internet. my mom and granny taught me that "if you don't have anything nice to say...don't say anything at all." i have really struggled to become a more positive person over the last ten years, some of you know what a struggle this really is. did i mention that i have the funk again. well it is Thursday and that means it is time for a thankful list. I AM THANKFUL FOR:

1. friends- i didn't expect all of the sweet wonderful things you guys posted in my comments last week. WOW, you guys really bolstered my self esteem, thanks. I'm not sure what i would do with out you guys.

2. prayer- it is an amazingly powerful tool that we have.

3. angel food ministries- can't stop singing their praises. good food way cheap.

4. forgiveness- it is for the forgiver not the forgiven.

5. nail polish- hey i haven't chewed my nails in over a month, and my hands look so pretty.

6. make up- the hubby took me to ulta and bought me an insane amount of way cool makeup. i have felt so pretty the last two weeks. there's nothing like purple glitter liquid eyeliner to make a girl feel special.

7. hot tea- it helps me to almost be able to breathe. i said almost

8. belly dancing- i had an absolute blast Monday night. Q really seemed to enjoy it too. my legs, abs and butt were so sore on Tuesday. then i would start coughing and i thought i would die my abs hurt so bad. i can hardly wait for next Monday.

9. good beer- yeah, i haven't had any recently, but sitting in my den is a 5 gallon jug of it brewing up. I'll get to enjoy it this summer i hear.

10. good music- i have always loved music. all kinds of music. i have a mix CD in the minivan that has everything from Chopin to buck cherry to clint black. i just like music. the title of today's blog is from one of my favorite songs. i always thought it fit me so well. "pretending that I'm doing well. my need is such i pretend too much. I'm lonely but no one can tell." I'm glad that isn't true anymore. i don't feel the need to pretend.

i hope that everyone has a magnificent weekend. if i don't feel better it looks like it will be another week without pizza night. i don't think I'm contagious, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. so what are you thankful for this week? getting rid of the old and bringing in the new? a shopping trip? friends and family that love and adore you? take a minute to think about it. have a great weekend.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

i did it my way

that doesn't come as a surprise to anyone who has known me very long. the few of you who have been friends with me longer than 10 years, wow you should get some kind of major award. the first 2/3 of my life inhaled, so the fact that some of you knew me then and still talk to me now is pretty impressive. the hubby and i have been doing a lot of talking the past few months about getting older, what has changed for the better, and how glad we are that we aren't 20 anymore. i was going to do a new year's post about what i learned last year and what i hope for in the coming year, but it just seems a bit cliche. instead i am going to say thank you individually to a few of my bloggy friends that have made this past year a great one.

shellybabes you my friend rock. i met my red headed alter ego when i was a child of 13. somehow she has managed to stick with me as a friend. she is one of those friends that no matter how rarely we talk, it doesn't seem like any of the friendship has been lost. she has been a great source of christian advice this past year and i am way greatful that God put her in my path.

vanillafrog you were always such an inspiration to me. she was the first nonconformist that i really ever knew. i met her the same time i met shellybabes. i was always so jealous that she didn't try to be anyone other than who she was. did i mention how cool she was too? so awesome. i have really enjoyed your blog and the humor involved. i still don't know how you manage to teach middle school without killing the students.

mzzterry is vanillafrog's mom. so i was so jealous that she encouraged her girls to be who they were. i love her blog. she is so honest and open, and a wonderful christian who always has a sweet comment to leave when i need it most. she raised her daughters to be wonderful christian women who aren't afraid to think for themselves. i hope i can be that kind of mom. thanks for the inspiration.

bex i knew from the same time period as the above group. i am thankful that we have reconnected and that life is treating you so beautifully.

rosemund i also know from the world of gladewater. i actually got to see her this year when her beautiful family was in amarillo. i remember how kind she always was in middle and high school. it is wonderful to see that some people only become more beautiful inside and out as they get older. your blog always brings a smile to my face. thanks

pattylicious my sister. i know that 2008 inhaled profusely for you, but it gave me the chance to be a true friend. thank you for so many things. defending me adamantly on your blog and anywhere else the idiocy seems to feel the need to rant. i hope that 2009 brings you peace and joy. you deserve them.

leah my inlaw that has become a friend. i'm glad that we have gotten to know each other. thank you for being a sounding board when i thought my head would explode. i hope 2009 brings a hunting accident that would make your life easier.

sweetflutterby what a great bloggy friend you have been. i love the recipes that you post and the kind words that you leave.

hotcup what a year 2008 was for you. thank you for the kind words that you have left when i needed them. i hope 2009 brings you all that you hope for.

this past year had its ups and downs, but i'm sure that can be said about any year. i would like to share a few things that i am thrilled about that will happen this year. the first is we will be debt free other than the vehicles and house this year. we will also welcome a new finch into the world. i have to say so far 30 has been the best year yet. i know that i didn't mention all the wonderful bloggy friends that i have, but i'm tired and the wee one is actually napping. remember there will always be haters in the world, so don't let them get to you. thanks to all of you who still take the time to read my blog.

Friday, January 16, 2009

i am alive

i know i've been mia, but things have been....busy here. i got all my swap stuff sent out, but haven't heard if they've been received or not. i may have to send out new ones if they haven't. so what have i been doing??? well, i made my first pair of slippers and they turned out way cute. the hubby and i celebrated ten years of matrimony. then there was christmas, new year's, and national training for finch. trust me each of those is entitled to its own blog, but time today is short. we survived all of them and came out better for them. i got a new sienna minivan and i am beyond happy to be mobile again. i also got to see the twilight movie, and was a wee bit disappointed. had i seen it before i read the book it wouldn't have been so bad, but i just hate it when a book gets mutilated. i am still batteling whatever it is that has been irritating the sinuses for the past few months. it gets better and then worse, so who knows. most of you who read this wee bit of a blog have already heard that come may there will be a baby boy in the family of finch. daddy is stoked about passing on his name. well, the wee one calls, so hopefully i wil post more later.